I just finished listening to President Obama’s talk at the Copenhagen Summit on Climate Change: mitigation, transparency and finance are the key concepts that I walk away with. Returning to my work with fathering I am increasingly convinced of the absolute necessity for the father’s return. I explore a rather simple possibility: as the earth is telling us how to care for her, our children will tell us how to father, if we listen.

But what needs to happen first and how do we listen? 

- We mitigate, in every moment of fathering, the doubts, fears, frustrations that work against our presence with our children.

- We remain open and accountable for all that we feel, do and think.

- We invest all of our energy into each moment to free our children to speak, act and reveal who they are and what they are here to teach us.

Our relationship with the earth is contaminating our planet to the point that we may not be able to live here. We may survive but will we be well? What can we do today that will make a difference? Care for the earth through our care for our families. Recognize that we do this along with – mother, peer group, school and various affiliations that make up the context of our children’s world. As our awareness and efforts fall into accord and we listen – we may very well find our way into sustainable relationship. As we inform our presence into our child’s world and gently remove the obstacles that separate us, we open to the vitality and life force that awaits us, and receive our understanding of how to father.

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